How did this happen?
I can’t believe the sh*t I’m in
If I stop now, I’ll be a total loser. There’s no way I can pay back all the money I owe.
If I had the money to invest, I’m sure my luck would change. I just need one more win.
Even when I win, I just lose it again.
I can’t deal with this, but I’m too embarrassed to ask for help.
I never thought it would get this bad.
Do any of these thoughts sound familiar?
Most people who eventually come to Gambling Help (1800 858 858) say they knew they had lost control over how much time and money they were spending gambling but they tried to ignore it. They knew they were ignoring other responsibilities too.
They knew that they were causing money problems for themselves and their family but only gambling seemed important. They thought gambling, and winning, would help them fix the problems they had created. Things got worse, and they knew they had a problem.
Even though they knew their gambling was causing problems for the people they loved, they become anxious and unhappy, and sometimes aggressive, if they couldn’t gamble. Often they hated themselves, but the urge to gamble seemed too great to resist.
For some people, not stopping gambling is more about feeling they couldn’t give up now, given all the time, money and emotion they’d put into gambling. They didn’t want to accept that they would never win back what they had lost.
Some people know the damage they are doing to themselves and their relationships but they still believe their system will pay off, their luck will change or they are due for a win.
Others believe that continuing to gamble is the only way out of a situation they are ashamed about.
Other people promise to quit, but can’t. Compelled to gamble, they also fear their loved ones will find them out. So often this means more lying about where they’ve been and greater deception over money, maybe hiding credit card bills or not making payments on household bills. This causes more unhappiness, sometimes depression, and often more and more debt.
People stuck in a gambling rut keep hoping a big win will end their problems. A win will let them pay back the people they’ve borrowed money from. A big win will mean they can buy things for themselves and their family and friends. A big win will make their life so much better. The odds are a big win never comes.
Once in a while you may win a small amount. Usually it’s no where near what you’ve put in or what you’ve lost but it’s enough to keep hope alive. My luck is changing, my win is almost here, but usually the losses just add up again.
If you are like most people who gamble too much, you may have tried to cut down or stop many times. It’s hard to change your gambling on your own and easy to fall back into harmful gambling behaviour.
Specialist counselling can help you find long-term solutions to your problems. It’s free, confidential and works. Gambling experts won’t judge you or make you feel bad, they’re qualified specialists who will help you understand your gambling behaviour and change it. To find a free specialist near you call 1800 858 858 or enter your postcode into the search box on the homepage at www.gamblinghelp.nsw.gov.au