Problem gambling does not just affect those who gamble, but also those who are closest to the individual. As a partner, a family member, or close friend, you may have found yourself experiencing feelings of guilt, resentment, helplessness, and confusion. You may have even found yourself asking whether you are responsible for your loved one’s … Continue reading My loved one has a problem with gambling – What can I do to help?
People with problematic levels of gambling are not the only ones who suffer the negative consequences of gambling. Those closest to them, such as a partner, a child, family member or close friend, may suffer too. This distress can often go unnoticed. Recent research has indicated that partners of individuals with problematic levels of gambling … Continue reading The impact of gambling on loved ones
Whether gambling is a problem for a person depends on the circumstances and experience of each individual; however, a typical feature of problem gambling is that it is often shrouded in secrecy – that is it lied about or covered up in some way. Problem gambling is often a cause of embarrassment, guilt and shame, and … Continue reading Keeping Secrets
In Part I, I talked about acceptance - acceptance of what cannot be changed in life and of our imperfections. Today I want to talk about how to commit to taking action on what we can change, so that we can live a richer and more meaningful life in line with our values. What are … Continue reading Acceptance and commitment – Part II
It is estimated that there are between 80,000 and 160,000 Australians with a significant gambling problem, equating to 0.5 to 1.0 per cent of Australian adults. This is a large number but the larger number is hidden behind these figures. For every person who has a problem gambling, there are their spouses, children, parents, and/or … Continue reading Helping a family member
People with a gambling problem are probably very aware of the impact it is having on their own lives – not having money, the feeling of loss of control, to name but a few. The area that is sometimes less obvious is the impact on people around the problem gambler. For parents it can be … Continue reading Gambling and relationships
Are you telling yourself the whole truth? While everyone knows that admitting a problem is the first step in recovery, it’s a tough ask. Our minds are fabulous at denial and we often tell ourselves so many other things before we can think about telling ourselves the truth. We tell ourselves we win more than … Continue reading When it comes to gambling…
There are many people who enjoy gambling, whether it's trying your luck on a horse, playing poker online or spending a few dollars on a night out at the casino with friends. The majority of people who gamble don't have a problem, but unfortunately there are others who completely lose control of their gambling and … Continue reading Is Gambling Getting to You?
My partner has a problem with gambling and I didn’t know and I’m devastated… Gambling addictions are unlike any other addiction – there are no obvious physical signs, so people can more readily hide their gambling problem and it is common for problem gambling to go on for years, perhaps becoming a bigger problem, as … Continue reading Help! My Partner is a Gambling Addict!
A very distressed Sarah wrote to me the other day about her gambling problems. Sarah has had a traumatic few months and now finds she is losing control of her gambling. I have always liked playing the pokies but it had never really been a big problem. Then 9 months ago I had a still … Continue reading My husband gets angry when I go to the club