Did you know that you know that approximately 70% of Australians participate in some form of gambling each year? Gambling can, in fact, take many forms. Playing the pokies, playing table games at the casino and betting on horses are all considered gambling. Even buying a lottery ticket or ‘scratchie’ is a form of gambling. … Continue reading How common is gambling?
It’s been months since a win, your partner fights daily with you over it, you struggle to have enough money to fill the car with petrol and the red letters are now coming weekly threatening to take away your beloved car. As you leave another session empty handed, broke and filthy with yourself you might … Continue reading Why is gambling so hard to kick?
Problem gambling can be a very isolating experience. Initially you might have started gambling with friends or family. It was a fun experience, social and quite enjoyable. Now you find yourself gambling alone for several hours chasing those losses. Hoping and praying you can make back what you’ve lost. A lot of people experiencing difficulties … Continue reading To tell or not to tell
Almost all of my clients have experienced the lowest of emotional lows because of gambling. This typically happens at the end of a session when they have lost everything. Despair about the present and the future, self-blame, self-judgment and suicidal thoughts are all very common in those moments. These negative emotions are absolutely awful to … Continue reading Gambling and Emotions
Problem gambling does not just affect those who gamble, but also those who are closest to the individual. As a partner, a family member, or close friend, you may have found yourself experiencing feelings of guilt, resentment, helplessness, and confusion. You may have even found yourself asking whether you are responsible for your loved one’s … Continue reading My loved one has a problem with gambling – What can I do to help?
Do you beat yourself up about your gambling? Maybe you think that you deserve to feel bad after a session, as a punishment for going. It kind of makes sense. When kids do something wrong, we punish them, so that they’re less likely to do it in future. Why would it be any different for … Continue reading Don’t beat yourself up
“If you are going through Hell, keep going.” - Winston Churchill Many people with gambling problems feel like they’re literally in Hell, wrecked by feelings of worthlessness, guilt and shame. Some feel like their lives are worthless and there’s no way out. Many have been gambling for more than a decade. Some have gambled hundreds … Continue reading Persistence
It might not always be obvious if your gambling or that of a loved one is out of control. Remember, even people with gambling problems start off as recreational gamblers, perhaps going out for an occasional punt with friends over a few drinks on the weekend. No one starts out as a problem gambler. What’s … Continue reading Alarm Bells
“What’s the point of getting treatment for my gambling? Why would speaking to a complete stranger about it help? What would they know that could possibly make a difference? And besides, I don’t want to anyone to know about my gambling. I’d hate to show my face at one of those clinics.” Have you ever … Continue reading What have you got to lose?
In recent decades, awareness about the importance of talking about our problems, instead of keeping them hidden, has increased among the community. In spite of this, many people think that talking about their problems, or asking for help, is a sign of weakness, and that dealing with problems on your own is a sign of … Continue reading Having the strength to reach out