Sit down and take a moment. This is important. Don’t just read through this, rather, take the time to make a mental image of your answers to some of these questions, because you CAN get better and you DESERVE to. Ask yourself. How might life look different if you stopped gambling? What would you do … Continue reading A minute of your time please
Australians gamble more per head than any other nation. This in itself isn’t necessarily a problem as, for some, gambling can be an enjoyable pastime. Often, people find that when they gamble recreationally, it is often in social situations where alcohol is abundantly available. It is common practice and, dare I say, emblematic of our … Continue reading Alcohol and Gambling- what’s the damage?
You have all probably heard about poker machines operating randomly, though what exactly does that mean? In gambling, random means that we are unable to accurately control or predict the outcomes that will occur next. Randomness also means that each outcome is independent of one another. That is, the outcome of each spin on a … Continue reading What randomness really means in poker machines
It’s been months since a win, your partner fights daily with you over it, you struggle to have enough money to fill the car with petrol and the red letters are now coming weekly threatening to take away your beloved car. As you leave another session empty handed, broke and filthy with yourself you might … Continue reading Why is gambling so hard to kick?
Almost all of my clients have experienced the lowest of emotional lows because of gambling. This typically happens at the end of a session when they have lost everything. Despair about the present and the future, self-blame, self-judgment and suicidal thoughts are all very common in those moments. These negative emotions are absolutely awful to … Continue reading Gambling and Emotions
“If you are going through Hell, keep going.” - Winston Churchill Many people with gambling problems feel like they’re literally in Hell, wrecked by feelings of worthlessness, guilt and shame. Some feel like their lives are worthless and there’s no way out. Many have been gambling for more than a decade. Some have gambled hundreds … Continue reading Persistence
While people get into gambling for a myriad of reasons, problem gamblers often engage in gambling in order to escape from negative emotions. These emotions might include loneliness, boredom, anxiety, stress and even depression. For example, many gamblers might rush off to the local pub or club after an argument with a spouse, or to … Continue reading Gambling as an escape
In Part I, I talked about acceptance - acceptance of what cannot be changed in life and of our imperfections. Today I want to talk about how to commit to taking action on what we can change, so that we can live a richer and more meaningful life in line with our values. What are … Continue reading Acceptance and commitment – Part II
It’s 5pm, knockoff time. You just got paid today. You are thinking of dropping into the club on the way home and going for an hour on the pokies. You’ll withdraw $100 and if you lose that, that’s it. There’s a little voice at the back of your head saying you won’t be able to … Continue reading Acceptance and commitment – Part I
Identifying personal triggers for gambling is a difficult task, but the identification of such triggers is the first step toward being able to control them. They may vary between individuals, as we are all unique in our personal experiences, but the list below provides some common triggers that many gamblers experience. Low Mood: Feelings of … Continue reading What are your triggers?