Callers to the Gambling Help telephone line often say, “I just have to have more willpower” as a strategy to manage their gambling. Then, when exercising their willpower is not enough to reduce or stop gambling, they decide: “I am weak willed.” In reality, neither statement is true. When we are trying to change any … Continue reading Power up: How to support your willpower
We find ourselves in a very strange moment. While some people are overwhelmed with the size of their to-do list, others are finding it difficult to find things to do at all. Counsellor Sam discusses the role of boredom in changing your habits.
When someone is struggling with a gambling problem, it is common for there to be a history of secrecy and hiding things — especially around money. A question for partners is “How can I trust that the gambling has stopped?”
If you’ve been managing your loved one’s finances while they try to change their gambling habits, you’ve probably helped them far more than you know — but eventually, there will come a time when they’ll need to take their money management back and carry on independently. Hopefully you will have decided on an endpoint when … Continue reading I think my loved one might be ready to manage their own money, but how do we decide?
If you've been helping a friend to manage their money while they try to change their gambling habits, it might come to the point where you decide you can no longer help. Here are some tips to help you have the conversation.
If a friend has reached out to ask you to help them manage their money, you may be confused about why and don’t quite know what to do. Asking a trusted friend or family member for help to handle money is a common strategy that many people use to stop or reduce their gambling. It’s … Continue reading You’ve been asked to manage someone’s money: Now what?
People who are trying to change their gambling habits can find that managing their money is especially difficult. Getting money on payday can lead to gambling, especially if money has been tight or you have recently received a large bill which triggers the urge to gamble to make money. Choosing someone to help you manage … Continue reading You can bank on your buddy: Ask a friend to hold your money
For many Gambling Help clients, the struggle with gambling can be a symptom of a broader issue: a reaction to a stressful experience in their life, such as grief or loneliness, or a response to an ongoing mental health issue. Sometimes we might not realise the connection until a counsellor helps ‘join the dots’. Some … Continue reading Join the Dots: The connection between mental health and gambling
It might sound strange, but deciding to make a change to your gambling can be just like getting fit. Here are our tips to 'get in shape'.
If you had a difficult childhood and now find yourself wanting to make a change to your gambling, it can be helpful to understand that there may be physiological or emotional factors that led you to this situation, as it can help you to figure out how to act from here. Counsellor Sam discusses the link between childhood trauma and adult distress.